ok, it's happening - you actually have a date! that means the hard part's done - right? now all you have to do is show up and be your amazing self to make them fall instantly and irrevocably in love with you.
if only it were that simple.
first dates can be stressful, awkward or even downright boring; but they can also be exciting, engaging and magical! instead of spending the time leading up to the date stressed about figuring out what to do, or say, or how to be, check out our six tips to help things go smoothly on your next first date.
1. go somewhere fun!
take the pressure off and choose a place that will have the conversation flowing naturally. whether you want to go with the tried-but-true dinner date (with a twist), or if you'd rather try something completely different, picking an activity or location that gives you something to talk about helps move quickly beyond conversation starters to get to the good stuff faster. want a guaranteed great first date activity? create a date with Boop: the going-on-dates app and pick from a curated list of the best date spots - with exclusive deals & discounts 😉
2. keep the conversation light and easy
the best way to keep the conversation going is to ask a question or make a comment that leads to a deeper discussion. you don't want to overwhelm your date with too many ideas, but you want to ensure they're interested in hearing more.
it's also important not to go on and on about yourself. the goal of the first date is not to get validation from your date; it's to see if there is chemistry and if you can have fun together! if you are worried about asking too many questions, try asking one question at a time before getting into larger conversations. you can always move those topics along later if they seem interesting or relevant to the conversation.
finally, don't talk about past relationships or bad experiences. instead, focus on what's happening now, at this moment. it will help keep the conversation focused on what you're both enjoying together rather than what's gone wrong in the past.
3. be polite and thoughtful
the most important thing to remember when you're on a first date is that you should be polite and thoughtful. you want to show interest in your date's interests and treat them respectfully. the whole point of a date is for both of you to have fun, so remember to not make things all about yourself or try too hard to impress them. if you have difficulty finding common ground with your partner, try talking about something you both enjoy and can talk about for a long time. finding common interests is easy with Boop: the going-on-dates app; simply join an interest group to find people who share your passion, from TV to snowboarding, art to cats!
4. avoid discussing your ex
let's face it - everyone's got a history. whether you've been in a relationship in the past, or just had feelings for someone else, it's unlikely you're going to find someone without a lil' baggage. try not to become defensive when someone brings up past relationships or bad experiences that happened in their life. it's important to remember that everyone goes through something in their life, and they can probably relate to things that have happened in yours too. that being said, where possible, it's best to avoid discussing your ex - especially in a negative way. this rarely reflects well on you and often makes you look unreasonable or bitter. instead, focus on the future and how great it could be with your new beau.
5. ...or other dates you're having
in the age of online dating, it's not uncommon to be going on a few first dates - after all, how else are you supposed to get to know someone without meeting them? while this is not uncommon behaviour, there's an unspoken rule that you avoid discussing other dates you're having - out of respect for the person you're with. if things don't go so well, you can still enjoy a fun time together and then politely part ways. and if things do go well...most likely they'll be your only second date!
6. respect differences in opinion
online dating can introduce you to a wide range of people - including some you might not have ordinarily met in your social circles. one of the most important things you can do on a first date is to listen (with respect) to your date's beliefs, opinions, and values. respecting someone else's values, especially if they're different to yours, not only shows a high level of maturity; but listening with an open mind may introduce you to ways of thinking you haven't come across before. if you disagree with their ideas or principles, then you can let them know in a respectful, non-judgmental manner (and hope they do the same for you).
in the end
a good first date may not make a great relationship, but it is a great indicator. and even if you don't hit it off, you can at least enjoy a fun time out together when you create a great date with Boop.
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